The home of the psychotherapist
it has a zen garden
where order and disorder
make up a harmony
precarious. A cat wanders
among the leaves, it disappears. Here
I come in to meditate
on the fullness that haunts me
on the empty menacing ugly face
waiting for me at the gate.
I have few arrows in my bow
the target: myself. Out
from the window the barricades
of '22 enliven the street
of courage. Within
I unroll a message
(of salvation?). What intoxication
in confession. Within
to remember ... to forget
Positivist thinking that sees the psychologist as an illusionist, who “hides” the negative with a positive cookbook, is also very fashionable in football.
While the Complexity of actions and reactions enters the scene, of which we are almost never aware. In Space / Time, pleasant and free, dynamic and unpredictable of the Game, potentially infinite forms of Knowledge, Relationships and mutual Understanding open and close.
Ivan, with his gentle, calm and silent style,
in dialogue with Authentic Listening,
he traced a "small" revolution
in the world of football.
A New Look, a Change of Perspective
in a broader search for meaning
so deeply Human.
The Way to stay and do well,
learning to know yourself in the relationship,
to understand yourself and others.
Ivan Paterlini is an adult who is not scary. I'm talking about a rarity. He has the eyes of a bear or a dolphin, a seahorse or a deer, in short, of woods or sea beds. So, he sees you, he hosts you in his gaze but he doesn't take your measurements and he doesn't decide who you are, ours, theirs, his gods. He also doesn't weigh you, how much you are worth in the human market is not the point for him. So, not being afraid, he approaches it and feels that he loves poetry, he talks about it as one would talk about the shape of the clouds, if there were experts who know how to talk to the clouds and ask them questions in a clouded language. He also speaks of myths and with the myths he weaves very thin webs, I would say transparent, which lead up to the words you are saying at that moment. And so you feel very old and very historic. Inside a fabric, a world of connections. Ivan Paterlini is kind, this is also a rare quality. It is now believed that those who are kind give you permission to be mistreated, while those who are strong mistreat others. Well, Ivan Paterlini is not like that. All in all, I think I can say that he is a UFO with a deep love for humanity. And the result is that he listens, he listens deeply.
I met Ivan on the occasion of a poetry review. Thus I discovered that he harbored both a professional and a loving interest in poetry. Not only that, literature, art, cinema and theater feed his life and his profession surreptitiously. If this is combined with politeness, the ways of offering, there is also a great friend in a great person.
A thought that does not know how to measure itself with experience easily becomes a mental acrobatics.
On the contrary, when thought is related to experience, it finds the human measure and is capable of grasping its limit. Who, in turn, can let the little fairy-tale Grullo live, who lives more or less marginalized in each of us. And the Grullo opens the doors of the imaginal and unimaginable world of the Psyche. Here art can be born.
What can I say about Ivan? Complex question: I would say first of all that before the books and exams, the long and necessary study process, he was able to see and interpret signs, respect coincidences, make encounters productive.
This attitude can be refined with experience but cannot be learned by studying, so it means that the qualities necessary to be an analyst were already present in him.
A profound and serious person, therefore a true analyst, to whom one can rely for emotional openness well tempered by a solid reason and a good sense of life.
What could I tell about Ivan? Understanding and harmony from the very first moment, a business meeting born from the desire to create and develop a Blog: a pleasant "chat" that immediately resulted in a rich sharing of common visions and stimulating ideas. And during the exchange of mutual points of view, the harmonious fusion of the same: the consolidation of trust and esteem that have been able to lead to a real and intense friendship.